How to have sex like you’ve never done before
Freeing your imagination and the desire to dare, experiencing different pleasures, with the advice of the expert.
HOW TO MAKE LOVE: TIPS FOR IMPROVING THE UNDERSTANDING
Those who think that sex is, after all, a little boring, who thinks that to make love in a crazy way you need acrobat skills or the encyclopedic knowledge of Kamasutra, very strange ideas and bizarre desires, will have to change their mind. Because the skills to be excellent lovers and do love “well”, erotic creativity and spicy fantasies are innate in each of us, a potential that is just waiting to be activated, awakened, realized.
The first rule is to dedicate oneself to sex not as if it were the umpteenth thing to do, but as a ritual of well-being and intimacy, taking advantage of the possibilities of eros to feel freer, to love each other, to feel pleasure. As for boredom … you can work on it!
HOW TO HAVE SEX MORE FULFILLING
As the sexologist Barbara Florenzano explains, the most difficult step towards a satisfying and full sexuality of a couple consists in “defusing the automatism, the mechanical nature that exists in the routine, in breaking the inertia to rediscover the desire to experiment, to to play, to enjoy “. To be able to do this, you need a little desire to dare, and even a little irony, which will allow partners, lovers again, to experience sex in a light and playful way. Sparkling.
But what to do to add some bubbles to the couple’s sex life? Nothing too difficult: simple gestures and a certain taste in getting involved are enough to bring out the erotic potential of the couple and broaden the horizons of pleasure. For example, try one of the 15 tips suggested by the expert…
1. EXPLORE THE CATALOG OF A SEXY SHOP TOGETHER
Explore: take a tour of an erotic boutique, or spend half an hour online browsing the catalog of a sex shop (there are now several and super-supplied), simply to get an idea of what is there, undisturbed, trying to instinctively understand what can turn you on: it’s a way like any other to probe your own fantasies. Generally, the idea of going into a “forbidden” place is enough to ignite the desire … if there is something that attracts, you can also switch to the purchase, which will give a certain “novelty effect” at the next meeting erotic.
2. PLAY WITH SEXTING
Warm up during the day with sexting, which consists of sending hot messages via email or text. You can start describing erotic fantasies, a situation you would like to experience, by sending a message every hour, adding a detail every time. When it is evening, you will be full of excitement!
Kiss each other a lot. For a week, for two minutes every morning, focusing only on this, on your feelings and on this contact. At first it may seem forced, but then it becomes a beautiful habit, which will strengthen your union, sentimental and above all physical!
4. TAKE THE INITIATIVE
Lead, take the initiative, but in a way you do not expect, perhaps dusting off some “reckless” effusion of the early days: a very passionate kiss in the restaurant toilet, a “free” fellatio while watching television … Most likely this will only be the foreplay to a night of fire.
5. ALLOW YOURSELF TO SMALL TRANSGRESSES
Let yourself go to those effusions that must be consumed almost secretly: for example, to quote a classic, make an appointment – perhaps at the cinema – and forget to wear lingerie or even clothes under the coat, staying in a slip … in others words, if you happen to have some spicy intuition, whether it’s in the bedroom or not, don’t settle for thinking it, take action!
6. GIVE HIM
There is probably one thing that he has always asked you and you have never indulged in, maybe anal sex, or the realization of a fantasy, watching a movie together … for once try to say yes, and try to see what happens without prejudice, because you could have very pleasant surprises. Obviously, the question is not doing things you don’t want to do: in this case it’s better to leave it alone.
7. EXPLORE THE BODY WITH THE SENSES
Make love only with your hands or mouth, with passion and abandon but focusing on the sensations and going step by step. For example, in the case of touch. Start with the touches to move on to caresses, approaching the hot areas very slowly. In this way, bodies get to know each other and explore each other in a different way, often giving surprising sensations!
8. CHOOSE AN UNUSUAL PLACE
Book a hotel room, even in your city, to dedicate a day or hours to realize a fantasy, perhaps playing a particular role, preparing the scenery, taking care of the clothing, the details. The idea of making this concession, of clandestinity, is in itself exciting because we go back to being lovers; building an erotic game increases arousal; being in a different environment helps to distance ourselves from how we usually make love and to embody parts of our erotic personality that we have not yet explored, such as the dominatrix or – very often – that of the courtesan.
9. PLAY THE GAME OF KING AND QUEEN
It consists in being the partner’s servant of love for a day. “Today you do whatever you want”, then the other’s turn comes. In addition to being a great cuddle, it allows you to know and experience unsuspected desires …
10. TRY DIRTY TALKING
Harness the power of words: a little pushy conversation during dinner, dirty talking when you make love, ranging from talking dirty to telling your erotic fantasies, reading an erotic book aloud. Once the erotic imagination is stimulated, the body reacts accordingly.
11. EXPERIENCE DIFFERENT RHYTHMS DURING PENETRATION
It may seem trivial, but in this case it is also the intention that matters. For example, try to do it slowly, experimenting and “savoring” the different types of contact between penis and vagina, ask him to try different depths, different rhythms and different types of movement, such as the circular one. In addition to being a pleasant exploration, once you find the winning combinations, it will be easier to indulge in “quickie” as well as “slow sex”, adding variety to the sex life.
12. Wake him up in the morning by teasing him
It will be a good way to start the day, giving him some explicit cuddles but without making him reach orgasm: a pleasant torture that will accompany both of you until the evening, when you can end with a flourish.
13. ABSTAIN FROM RELATIONSHIP FOR A LITTLE
Dedicate yourself to rediscovering everything that is collateral to penetration (kisses, caresses, rubbing …): having this limit will help to draw on creativity and apply it to eros, incredibly enriching the baggage of sensations and games available to the couple.
14. AWAKEN THE SENSES
Another game to play, even better if in the period of abstinence, are the sensory evenings, in which we dedicate ourselves to the exploration and erotic stimulation of the senses. For example, the sight can be tickled by letting oneself be looked at during self-eroticism, a striptease can be offered; the evening of smell could be centered on perfumes and sniffing, the one dedicated to hearing with words and music; the evening of taste could include a dinner blindfolded, in which we feed each other, as well as “taste” the partner’s body, that of touch an erotic massage ..
15. COMMUNICATE YOUR WISHES
Find the courage to make a request you’ve never made, but also to talk about sex openly, asking him to talk to you about his desires and telling your own, to probe the reasons, perhaps chatting about everything that has left good memories .. Communication can really boost a couple’s sexuality.